If money was not an issue, what would your biggest dreams consist of?
I've heard this question a million times before. I let my mind wander into crazy ideas, and I get excited about my passions. But then as times goes on, I remember the reality of life and quickly forget all my big hopes and dreams. I push them aside to focus on "real life." My dreams seem so unattainable sometimes that I keep them as simply that - dreams.
Can anybody relate, or is that just me?
I can't be the only one who has these big dreams inside me that don't seem plausible. But what if. What if these dreams were actually not impossible. The big ideas in my head often scare me away from the fact that normal people just like me have attained many of their own dreams similar to mine. That is clear proof that it is possible! What if all it took was a lot of work and motivation to start working on your dream? Just think of all the people who have followed their dreams and achieved them. If they gave up, the world would be a different place. Do you have the power to change the entire world through your dream? Probably not, but if achieving your dream changes the life of just one person, then you are already changing the world of that one person. Maybe you can inspire others to pursue their dreams, and it could be a cycle of dream-chasers.
I believe God has placed individual dreams inside each and every one of us, and while God helps us along the way, it is up to us to pursue them. It's not going to be easy, I can almost guarantee that. But the work will be so worth it to fulfill what God has placed in us. Now obviously not all dreams are from God, and we must evaluate our dreams before we go all out trying to achieve them. But please, do not let fear be the only thing holding you back from your dreams.
Here are some questions I ask myself before pursuing a dream:
1.) What is my end goal? What do I want to achieve?
2.) What will my strategy be? How can I realistically begin to achieve this?
3.) Am I willing to stick with this dream when hardships come? Am I fully committed to this dream and passionate enough about it to stick with it through the good and the bad?
And my most important question,
4.)Who or what is this dream really about? Do I want to achieve this goal to bring glory to myself or to the One who put this desire in me?
If I have solid and positive answers to these questions, then I say it's a good dream to reach for.
Not sure what your dreams are? Here are some future dreams of mine that I would love to achieve one day.
- Publish a book - or multiple books!
- Open up a café/mini bookstore
- Open and run a private school (with my husband)
- Adopt multiple children (also with my husband)
- Travel the world (Oh! Also with my husband)
- Build a house with secret passages (yes, I know. Try not to be jealous. Yes! With my husband.)
I do not know how I will achieve these, but I know that with God by my side, anything is possible.
So I encourage you to dream big. Write down your dreams and think about those questions above. Just by writing down your dreams, your chances of achieving them become much higher. Search up on google the power of writing down your dreams; you'll be amazed by the results.
Please, do not let the idea of impossibility stop you from chasing after your passions.
Before college started, my love life was... nonexistent. Like, literally never existed. I had never dated anyone before or even gotten anywhere close to it. I loved watching and reading love stories and dreaming about one day meeting the man God has for me. I pictured our love story so many different ways, but honestly it just seemed like a fantasy in my head that would never come true. It seemed so preposterous that anyone could like, let alone love, me romantically. I couldn’t fathom the idea of me and someone else falling in love. It sounded like a fairy tale.
But God knew what was coming.
Entering college was an interesting experience. Being at a Christian college, everyone is a little crazy at first. So many godly men and women all together, it’s any single Christian’s dream! So many of my friends were looking out for all the cute guys. But coming from the success I had in relationships in the past, I wasn’t really too crazy about meeting anyone. The thought of any guy liking me still seemed impossible. I figured I would eventually meet the guy that God has for me, maybe towards the end of college or the beginning of my career. But for now, dating still seemed like a dream, and so while my friends were obsessing over boys, I just listened to them and helped them out. I barely even talked to any guys that first week of orientation. Just stuck to what I was comfortable with, me and the girls.
I even remember the first conversation I had with a guy that week. It wasn’t even on my own, it was literally a forced conversation. I was in one of my orientation seminars about networking, and we had to find someone near us to have a converstion with. The first one I talked to was my friend next to me. We chatted carelessly and didn’t take it seriously. But then we had to do it again. And this time, I didn’t have another friend near me. I frantically looked around to see everyone pairing up, and started getting stressed when I realized I would have no one to pair up with. Until everyone around me but one person was left. And just my luck, it was a boy. After sharing names and majors, we quickly ran out of things to say. I tried not to be too awkward, but let’s be real here, there was a reason no one dated me for 18 years. I literally ended up talking about the weather. Yes, seriously, the WEATHER. How awkward could I be? After totally humiliating myself in that conversation, I quickly turned back to the front and moved on from that embarrassing moment. I decided to block out that conversation in my head.
That was exactly why I avoided boys.
The first few weeks was a blur of new classes and people. I started to form a friend group, and we grew close really quickly. I even wanted to come back from fall break early, just to hang out with them. The weekend that I came back, right before classes started back up again, my friends and I decided to carve pumpkins. This was a big deal for me considering I had never carved a pumpkin before, so this was a pretty exciting night for me. I am kind of an artsy person, so my pumpkin turned out... not horrible. I guess it was somewhat cute, having a cat face on it, but definitely not a masterpiece or anything. Well, by the end of the carving, I began to need to use the bathroom. But since my friend and I were about to go back to my room, I figured I would just use it there.
On the way back, however, some of my friends got sidetracked in a conversation with someone in the hallway. I had noticed another friend in someone's dorm while we were walking down the hallway, so I slipped out of the hallway to say hi to my friend in the dorm. Pretty bold for me considering I just walked into some random guy's dorm, even though the door was propped open. There were two guys in the room along with my one friend. The one guy I somewhat knew from mutual friends, but the other I didn't recognize. They were both super friendly and allowed me to chill in their room as I waited for my friends in the hallway.
By this time I really had to use the bathroom, but I felt super awkward asking these guys to use their bathroom, so I tried to hold it in. Well, that plan proved more difficult than I thought. The guy in the dorm that I didn't recognize was hilarious. Like, pee-your-pants hilarious when you don't even need to use the bathroom. So imagine how I was doing! As the hallway conversation got longer and longer, and this guy got funnier and funnier, I finally couldn't hold it any longer and pushed myself to ask to use their bathroom. Phew, what a relief, now I could laugh with joy instead of pain.
On top of the constant jokes, this new guy also seemed to think my pumpkin was amazing. Like, a masterpiece he wanted to buy or something. He constantly complimented me on it, and while I found it kind of strange, I just assumed he was trying to encourage me or be nice since it was my first carved pumpkin. After almost two hours of getting an ab workout from laughter, it was finally time for us girls to leave the guys dorm building for "curfew." As I left with my friend from the room, she insisted that the funny guy, whose name I learned was Nate, was flirting with me. But me being the naive person I am about these things insisted that he was just being nice and blew it off as anything more.
I think God was laughing, considering He knew that the "funny guy" would be my future husband.
To be continued...
Jesus lover. College sophmore. Interdisciplinary Studies major. Fiancée. Introvert.
These are all words that can be used to describe me. Yes, that's right. I am a college sophomore, only 19 years old, and engaged. Crazy, right? Well, some might think so. To me, it's just life. I found the love of my life, and as they say, "when you know, you know." I realized my life was a little different than the ordinary, so I figured maybe there are a few out there who are interested in hearing a little about my life.
I was born and raised in different parts of New Jersey. My family was not the most finanically well off, so this caused us to move quite often when I was younger. My family is nondenominational Christians, and I decided to chase Jesus for myself when I was thirteen. Ever since then, my life has been dedicated to serving Him. I attended a very small, private Christian school for all thirteen years of school. And when I say small, I mean small. Like, I graduated in a class of ten students. And not to brag or anything, but I was valedictorian. I know, I know, I'm big stuff. You can ask for autographs later.
Anyway, once I graduated, I moved to Virginia to attend school here. This was a big step considering how close my family and I have always been. My only sibling, my older brother, attended a local college, so I was the first one to leave the house. But ever since I was young, I always had an adventurous side to me, and while I was sad to leave, I was also super excited for the new adventure ahead of me. I actually attempted to make this blog then, to take you guys along with me as I figured out how to "adult." Unfortunately, college swept me away in a blur of school work, friends, and one special guy. But I am back and ready to get this started!
Freshman year was unlike anything I had ever experienced, and as cheesy as it sounds, I grew so much as a person and learned so much. I had been largely sheltered growing up, and my eyes were open to so many things. I met some of the best people, and I met the guy of my dreams. Never in a million years did I go into fall semester expecting to be engaged by the end of my freshman year. But God works in mysterious ways. Stick around for future blogs about our love story.
Anyway, that brings us to where I am today, currently planning a wedding for the end of the summer. If my story interests you at all, stick around! I will be sharing many types of things on this blog, from personal stories to advice to hacks and tips I've learned to faith and encouragement. I can't wait to start this blogging journey with you guys, and hopefully you can learn something along with me through it all.